Remember When I Said…

…well now that I’ve had a break and had time to think about it, I’ve changed my mind about quitting blogging but I am making a change to the way I use this blog. I have a lot of photos I’ve been hoarding from here, there and everywhere, and I’ve been taking inspiration from other writers, bloggers and photographers so will be focusing more on putting words with pictures than pictures with words.

There won’t be any rhyme or reason behind it, there won’t be any schedule, there won’t be any theme, there won’t be any pressure, there will just be as when I can .

Time to start a new journey.

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Why I’m Quitting Blogging

 

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I’ve been having a bit of a dilemma lately, I need to make cut backs in certain areas so that I can get more time for others! This is the problem when you have so many interests and two businesses to run! Well I say two, I really need to find time for my second one that I’m trying to set up. I made some much needed charges to my vintage selling business to free up some time but it’s not enough, I need to make more cut backs elsewhere.

This has been playing on my mind a bit for the last few months and as much as I love blogging, it seems I don’t love it enough to keep in on the stay list. I have been blogging since early 2009, I’ve never been a very dedicated blogger, it’s waxed and waned over the years, over the last few months the urge to blog seems to be waning and trying to keep up is becoming a chore. I never wanted to be a professional blogger, I definitely fall into the hobbyist catagory so not keeping up in the blogging loop has never really bothered me that much. But i do still enjoy reading other people’s blogs.

August is always a good time for reflection, things slow down in the summer for business as everyone is a way and it frees up time to do a little reevaluating of things. I feel that I’m spreading myself to thinly these days  and with so much to keep up with am a) only producing half arsed worked and b) not getting enough personal time in. So I’m cutting back and refocusing that energy into projects that require it especially my new shop, I’m so far behind its silly! So that means I’m putting the blog on hiatus for a while maybe forever. I like writing and want to also focus on some creative pieces that have been languishing in a pile and if I choose between writing a blog or writing a novel, i think I’ll give the novel a go.

I’ve enjoyed blogging (most of the time) but now I feel is the time to let it go and move on as my heart really isn’t invested in it anymore. Maybe one day it will again but for now I’m concentrating on other things. I’m toying with turning this site into more of a professional portfolio and keeping the blog as an archive but there are so many things going on over the next few months, I’ll come to that decision later.

You Can’t Sit With Us!

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Sometimes you will come across people who just don’t want to engage with you and you know what? You just have to accept that because not everyone is going to like you or want to be your friend but there seems to be an increasing amount of people getting way above their station on social media and acting like they are way better than everyone else and selective with who they talk to.

Whilst in the most part many people are nice, chat, mind their business and do their own thing, there is that bunch that ruin it for everyone else. There is not a week that goes by where there is not some drama or another in the blogging community. I’ve been blogging since 2009, I have never really taken it seriously or been that committed and that’s the great thing about choices but there is a reason why blogging is never going to be taken as a serious professional due to the lack of professionalism that some people display and not just bloggers but also the PR firms and brands they work with.

As it get’s more competitive, the claws get sharper. I won’t lie, I’m not a fan of the term girl gang that gets banded about, I find it to be quite a toxic term and problamtic, I get that the majority of bloggers are females but the term initially comes off quite exclusive. I know they say everyone is welcome but the name suggests otherwise. What starts off as a small community of support and camaraderie, soon gets infected as it grows bigger and it only takes one person to infect the pool and then it all kicks off and as always it’s only a select few that ruin for everyone else, those that are faux and just out to gain something usually for free. or people complain about being left out out because someone else is getting more attention etc, etc, etc.

I’m not a fan of this whole follow for a follow bullshit, it makes absolutely no sense to me! What is the point of having so many followers when hardly any of them interact with you. It’s no big secret that to be successful you have to engage, you are not a rock star, you don’t get to be all aloof and mysterious, you need to interact and engage with people and I’m not just talking hitting a like button to acknowledge their presence! Feeling popular and actually being popular are two different things. Of course the more popular you are the more jealous people will try to take you down and steal your crown from you, which is in part why I’m glad I’m not popular and in other part because I’m too lazy to deal with this shit and I have enough to keep me busy not to need these kind of dramas.

I understand (not from experience) to keep up and interact with lots of followers must be hard but some just comes across as downright rude and of course you don’t have to follow them, though I feel that there is some unwritten obligation to follow people who follow you but again that’s bullshit. It’s called social media not anti social media, if you’re there just to validate your own worth and feel popular due to high numbers then frankly my dear, you’re doing it all wrong. You might pay them a compliment or answer a question they put forward and they don’t respond or even acknowledge it anyway, not even through a like or a thank you but you know that’s also their right, they don’t owe you anything, just like you don’t owe them anything. Chalk it up, move on and find someone who does care.

I get that social media is all about the freedom of speech and everyone is entitled to share their opinion, if you’ve ever followed my twitter feed, you know that I do that a lot (more than I probably should!) but that doesn’t mean people need to respond. If I don’t like something I more often than not just keep scrolling or if really disagree with someone’s opinion I unfollow (usually because they’re a racist bellend). I’ve always been the proverbial outsider even when it comes to the internet. I always seem to be behind on all the popular sites and everyone has already set up their groups, going on meet ups and whatnot and it can be hard to try to integrate without feeling like your gate crashing. Social media is a highly contradictory and volatile ecosystem, sometimes you don’t want to be the one that upsets the balance. But there are tonnes of lovely and welcoming people out there, you will find them and they will find you.

I started blogging like most people did because I could and also as a place to share my opinions and that is just what most of social media is people sharing their opinions, bad comes with good and all that but it’s up to you how you respond to it. Your blog is your blog, you can do whatever you want with it, follow your own path, be you but be the best you that you can be but remember you are human and you are allowed to falter. You are allowed to have your own opinion, you don’t have to follow the pack all the time, stop trying to be someone else because they look popular, looks are deceptive, stats are just numbers, just because someone has 10k followers doesn’t mean they are rich and successful. The internet is just a snapshot, a photograph, you have no idea what is going on outside the frame, more importantly just try and not be a total dick! By all means disagree with people, no one is telling you to lick arse but there is no reason to be a total jerk to someone whose life and livelihood has taken a turn for the worse. You can just jog on and not give you’re two pence worth and on that note that is my two pence worth!

PS this is just my opinion, it doesn’t make me right.

Hi

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And welcome to our new home. Just a quick post  to say as you can see we are no longer on Blogger. The old blog will continue to run for a little while until everything is set up here, sorry it’s a little bit messy, I still have some odds and ends to finish formatting but it’s only day one!

As per my earlier post, there are lots of changes happening and while some will take longer than  others, I can at least carry on with blogging, well I do have 58 posts in draft so I should be okay for a while at least. Also as you can see I’ve had a name change and also a brand new spanking domain to match, which makes me very happy.

Style posts have been on hold recently for a reason and I’m writing about that, not that I’ve had much time to focus on outfit posts but I have a few other posts to keep me going for a while, so I will be blogging about other stuff in the mean. It might take a while to get into my groove over here, what with everything else going on but you patience is appreciated.

Until the next post

Tasha x

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Top Ten Posts of 2016

Whilst there were a few stressful times throughout 2016, on the grand scheme of things, 2016 turned out pretty okay in the end for me but I’ve decided to things a little different this year in regards to my what happened in 2016 posts.

I did start doing my top tens last year but then Christmas came and I decided to give myself some time off and chill out over the festive season whilst reviewing over things to make plans for this year. My list is already very long, especially creative wise. But one of my goals is definitely to blog more and get into a regular blogging schedule. I’ve been blogging on and off since 2009 and to be honest I do love it. I’m always a little worried about my blog having too many topics, that is until I decided to look at my top ten posts of last year and saw that actually, they covered a wide range of topics, proving that’s it’s always good to write about want you want, rather than writing about what you think people want to read. Your audience will find you.

I also started writing about other topics such as style and more opinion led pieces and they did pretty also did pretty well, so that’s definitely encouraged me to keep on stepping outside my boundaries and writing stuff like that.

So here are my top ten posts from last year, the first three (and the top three) outfit posts. Although I didn’t post as many outfit as I’d have liked to next year I plan on posting a lot more!

Love Cats

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This is actually one of my favourite tops made for one metre of fabric and pattern hack.

Release the Stars

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Club Tropicana

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As with the above outfits, I wore this at VLV19, I wish I could take all my outfit posts in Las Vegas, the sun and vibes bring out the total poser in me. I wore this dress to the car show.

Bite Me

For Halloween I did a small series on my favourite horror movies, turns out you guys are pretty hot for vampires!

Something to Write Home About

Well goes without saying really who doesn’t love stationery?

Las Vegas Lights

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Took another visit to the Neon Museum which is one of my favourite museums.

Favourite Albums of 2016

I used to blog about music suff on my other blog but since streamlining I decided to start including books and music on this blog as well and it seems you guys don’t mind.

Accessory Queen

Turns out a lot of my top posts were holiday related, my vintage and repro accessory haul from our trip to the US.

Fabric Haul Part 2

There might be a few fabric haul posts coming up as I’ve been stocking p during the Black Friday and Boxing Day sales!

Chicken and Mango Corn Cous Cous Salad / Prints and Patterns

I haven’t really been posting many recipes but this one got a lot of love, perfect summer dish.

And as a bonus one of my favourite posts I wrote last year 10 Things To Do In San Francisco not only because it was out Honeymoon but it is now one of my favourite places in the world. Definitely need to go back and explore some more.

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We even found the most Instagrammed house in the world!

So as you can see my top ten posts were quite a mixed bag of topics and I think that’s a good thing!