Sometimes you will come across people who just don’t want to engage with you and you know what? You just have to accept that because not everyone is going to like you or want to be your friend but there seems to be an increasing amount of people getting way above their station on social media and acting like they are way better than everyone else and selective with who they talk to.
Whilst in the most part many people are nice, chat, mind their business and do their own thing, there is that bunch that ruin it for everyone else. There is not a week that goes by where there is not some drama or another in the blogging community. I’ve been blogging since 2009, I have never really taken it seriously or been that committed and that’s the great thing about choices but there is a reason why blogging is never going to be taken as a serious professional due to the lack of professionalism that some people display and not just bloggers but also the PR firms and brands they work with.
As it get’s more competitive, the claws get sharper. I won’t lie, I’m not a fan of the term girl gang that gets banded about, I find it to be quite a toxic term and problamtic, I get that the majority of bloggers are females but the term initially comes off quite exclusive. I know they say everyone is welcome but the name suggests otherwise. What starts off as a small community of support and camaraderie, soon gets infected as it grows bigger and it only takes one person to infect the pool and then it all kicks off and as always it’s only a select few that ruin for everyone else, those that are faux and just out to gain something usually for free. or people complain about being left out out because someone else is getting more attention etc, etc, etc.
I’m not a fan of this whole follow for a follow bullshit, it makes absolutely no sense to me! What is the point of having so many followers when hardly any of them interact with you. It’s no big secret that to be successful you have to engage, you are not a rock star, you don’t get to be all aloof and mysterious, you need to interact and engage with people and I’m not just talking hitting a like button to acknowledge their presence! Feeling popular and actually being popular are two different things. Of course the more popular you are the more jealous people will try to take you down and steal your crown from you, which is in part why I’m glad I’m not popular and in other part because I’m too lazy to deal with this shit and I have enough to keep me busy not to need these kind of dramas.
I understand (not from experience) to keep up and interact with lots of followers must be hard but some just comes across as downright rude and of course you don’t have to follow them, though I feel that there is some unwritten obligation to follow people who follow you but again that’s bullshit. It’s called social media not anti social media, if you’re there just to validate your own worth and feel popular due to high numbers then frankly my dear, you’re doing it all wrong. You might pay them a compliment or answer a question they put forward and they don’t respond or even acknowledge it anyway, not even through a like or a thank you but you know that’s also their right, they don’t owe you anything, just like you don’t owe them anything. Chalk it up, move on and find someone who does care.
I get that social media is all about the freedom of speech and everyone is entitled to share their opinion, if you’ve ever followed my twitter feed, you know that I do that a lot (more than I probably should!) but that doesn’t mean people need to respond. If I don’t like something I more often than not just keep scrolling or if really disagree with someone’s opinion I unfollow (usually because they’re a racist bellend). I’ve always been the proverbial outsider even when it comes to the internet. I always seem to be behind on all the popular sites and everyone has already set up their groups, going on meet ups and whatnot and it can be hard to try to integrate without feeling like your gate crashing. Social media is a highly contradictory and volatile ecosystem, sometimes you don’t want to be the one that upsets the balance. But there are tonnes of lovely and welcoming people out there, you will find them and they will find you.
I started blogging like most people did because I could and also as a place to share my opinions and that is just what most of social media is people sharing their opinions, bad comes with good and all that but it’s up to you how you respond to it. Your blog is your blog, you can do whatever you want with it, follow your own path, be you but be the best you that you can be but remember you are human and you are allowed to falter. You are allowed to have your own opinion, you don’t have to follow the pack all the time, stop trying to be someone else because they look popular, looks are deceptive, stats are just numbers, just because someone has 10k followers doesn’t mean they are rich and successful. The internet is just a snapshot, a photograph, you have no idea what is going on outside the frame, more importantly just try and not be a total dick! By all means disagree with people, no one is telling you to lick arse but there is no reason to be a total jerk to someone whose life and livelihood has taken a turn for the worse. You can just jog on and not give you’re two pence worth and on that note that is my two pence worth!
PS this is just my opinion, it doesn’t make me right.