This should probably be titled ‘What I Nearly Didn’t Wear on my Wedding Day!’ So originally I was going to make my dress, I figured four months would be plenty of time and if that didn’t work out then I’d wear one of my sparkly vintage dresses. Then on Twitter one night, Dita Von Teese tweeted about her dress range being on sale and I found the perfect dress, a simple and elegant vintage style black cocktail dress with chiffon scarf called the Follow Me dress, the size 12 (American size) was my exact measurements and it was 40% off, so we got it. A few weeks later we got an email saying they were trying to locate the size and what did we want to do if they didn’t have have it. We replied and then heard nothing, we chased again and then got an apology, the dressed had been posted and then returned and was now being resent by courier, cue me stalking said tracked package as it winged it’s way to old blighty. The dress was finally delivered, I tried it on and well yeah!
Despite the label stating it was a size 12, it was actually a size bigger!! I measured it and they had stuck the wrong size label into the dress! Having planned a wedding in such a short space of time, I didn’t have time to send it back and request a new one, so I had several alternative options; make a dress, crash diet and fit into one of my vintage dresses (I stopped dieting so I wouldn’t have to alter the Follow Me Dress), eat an awful lot of cake to bulk out to fit into it or alter it. I decided to take the sensible option and alter it after several people reminded me that I could actually do it myself. I did consider having it professionally altered to save me any stress like messing it up but then I thought I’ve been sewing clothes for years I can do this, why am I being silly? So the first things I did was to go out and buy the bra I was going to wear with the dress. Having a big bust, I’ve always struggled to find strapless bras but this one from Debenhams is super awesome and has multiway straps as well and didn’t break the bank like some good supporting, well made bras can! Then wearing the bra, I pinned the dress where it needed taking in. All it really required was taking it in at the sides, so the right side was easy just pin and sew on the inside, this altered the look of the dress slightly as the bodice had no side seam on the right but when I finished it had.
The left side required a little more work as the bodice was ruched with a light silk material, so before removing the zip I baste stitched (twice just to be on the safe side) where the zip needed to go before removing the zip. I then reinserted the zip, which I baste stitched in first just to make sure I had the right fitting before securing it with a machine stitch. I then restitched the lining in by hand because it was easier with this kind of material and then removed all the baste stitching. I then also raised the shoulder an inch as because of my frame I have short shoulders (yes that is a thing) and most standard straps are always too long for me. People asked me afterwards why didn’t I complain, send it back or ask for a refund but too be honest there wasn’t time to send it back and also I can and did fix the situation myself. I put it down to a mistake, these things happen, I promised myself I wouldn’t get stressed out or go all bridezilla and I stayed true to myself!! I also took the boning out because it was uncomfortable and I’m pretty sure it was put in on the wrong side!!!! Anyhoo, I’m pretty proud of the job I did on it.
And now for the rest of my outfit.
I’ve always wanted a pair of Irregular Choice shoes, they are cute and quirky and make any outfit fun, so I chose the ‘Can’t Touch This’ Shoes.
After much umming and ahhing over their awesome jewellery and trying on many different styles, I opted for the Carousel Horse Large Necklace from Tatty Devine.
Bracelets from Hennes and Handbag from my vintage collection
Our wedding rings came from The Great Frog London, mine is the four skulls and The Goth got the Carpe Diem ring.
Rainbow and Blue Roses from Isle of Flowers in London Bridge Station for my bouquet. I had to have these after seeing them on RocknRoll Bride’s Instagram feed. Cue running down to London Bridge on a very rainy Thursday to grab some of these beauties. They are currently being dried to put on display, so no I didn’t throw the bouquet!
Hair and Make up by my awesomely talented friend Bronagh O’Neill. We went with vintage pin curls and flowers in my hair and my make up lasted all day (and it was a long day!) I will admit we may have splashed out a little on my outfit, though I think £600 for a bridal outfit and accessories is pretty good going these days and I chose things I could and would want to wear again, so it was a good excuse to buy stuff I had been coveting for a while!
The Goth wore his trusted black suit that he wears to all weddings with a pink tie and pink socks to match my hair! We had the suit dry cleaned for a massive £12 so he was a budget bridegroom and looked totally amazing.
I was never going to be a traditional bride, actually I never saw myself as a bride at all but the important thing is that you are comfortable with you are wearing on the day and that you wear something that is you.